Is my behavior normal 1

When children hurt themselves out of anger

Multiple triggers for autoaggression

The triggers for slightly auto-aggressive behavior in the little ones can be varied: as soon as something doesn't work while playing or getting dressed, or if the parents don't do what the little ones want. "Sometimes the children are also angry because they cannot understand why they are not getting something, such as a chocolate bar from the supermarket," explains Simonszent. If parents then say "No", the child mutates into a roaring dwarf.

The psychologist advises to stay calm and not to rant. He takes a critical view of using sweets or cell phones as a distraction maneuver: "The child perceives this as a reward, remembers it and will try it this way again and again."

Children are not yet able to put problems into words

Parents can try a little to prevent difficult situations: If children are overtired, hungry or stressed in the family, they react more extreme to little things. It is important that the parents have a good bond with their child, that is, that they look after their needs with care. Because the little ones can usually not yet put their problem into words and need the support of their parents. By asking specific questions, it is often possible to find out where the difficulties are and how they can be solved. For example, handing the child a piece of fruit when they are hungry.

This is how children learn to deal with stress

Once the little one has calmed down a bit, parents can help him to classify the situation. For example, by explaining to him that it is okay to get help if something doesn't work out right away. Over time, the child learns to deal with difficulties. In everyday life, too, parents are role models in dealing with conflicts. "That doesn't mean that parents shouldn't get angry, but they should show their children how to deal with stressful situations appropriately," advises the psychologist. And if the child reacts calmly the next time, although the crown does not want to stay on its head: Do not forget to praise and encourage it to continue like this!